Ahhh…a new year. A fresh start. A clean slate. A blank slate.
Have you chosen a word for the year yet? Nope? Same here. I am finding that choosing a word even if it seems as if the Lord has guided me to it just does not seem to work with me. I don’t know why, maybe it’s the rebellious side of me as well as not being able to focus in on one word for a whole stinkin’ year!
Starting a new workout or eating program? Nope? Me either. Never seems to work in the long run. I am still living in the tension of wanting to physically look younger (in my face/hair/hands) and dealing with a belly that appears as if I am preggers. Oddly enough, however, I recently have taken the attitude that I really don’t care. As long as my stretchy pants from Chico’s and Eddie Bauer fit, who really cares?! Drink the wine (not to excess Ephesians 5:18), eat the dessert, whatever you want to do as long as you do it unto the Lord (1 Corinthians 10:31). People will remember not how you physically looked (if you had an extra 20 lbs. etc.), but how you treated them. Did you treat them with kindness and respect? Did you actively listen to them without interrupting? (Still working on this one, the first one also!) Did you build them up or put them down (1 Thessalonians 5:11)?
Now, I do not find it wrong to want to improve yourself in any way. I just find that mere resolutions do not work for very long. We are weak creatures, (will share one of my favorite quotes by C.S. Lewis at the end of the blog.) A former professor of mine in seminary, Dr. J, was all about the end goal, “implementation steps” or “actionable steps.” Meaning, tangible, doable albeit sometimes difficult steps to achieving a particular goal. For instance, here is a simple idea. Say you would like to eat more fruits and veggies this new year? How about creating a chart with 8 circles or squares per day of the week and check off each day how many servings of fruits and veggies you had that day, the goal being 5-8 servings per day (according to Dr. Oz anyway). And, maybe reward yourself for eating well each week…with a mani/pedi or slice of gluten-free, dairy-free, sugar -free chocolate cake? [Shout out to Dr. J! Although intimidating at first and challenging, you made class entertaining and fun! You were extremely purposeful in your goals and you loved each one of us in an unique, winsome and salty way. You shaped us to go out into the world and care for others in a truly Christ-like fashion. You will never be forgotten; I wish you the very best in your future endeavors. You have many more stories to tell and lives to enrich in this fallen world, go get em’ Dr. J!]
I heard the saying once, “What you say comes your way” and it truly stuck with me. Think about it, when you say, “I will try” instead of “I will…” with actionable steps to take after that…better potential for success, yes?! Just some advice from my seasoned years (JK). There is still SO much more to learn, amen? So, go out there with a teachable heart, a listening ear, and an eternal purpose and live the life the Lord created you to live. All for His Glory and our joy.
“It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.” --C.S. Lewis (Weight of Glory and Other Addresses)
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I will never forget the excitement I had going into a meeting with one of my professors, Dr. J back in grad school. I had the idea of launching a Christian clothing business from way back when and he had a side business that helped start-ups. I came prepared with all my notes, my hand-drawn ideas scribbled into a notebook from years ago and a prototype of a zip-up hoodie that had embroidered crosses and verses stitched all over it. I was so excited! See, Dr. J, now this is what I’m talking about! See this cool hoodie??!! It’s a nicer, higher-end product that I really think people would buy! He, of course, has far more knowledge than I and he is asking questions and pondering it all…thankfully not anything like “Shark Tank”; I would never have survived that type of questioning. He was genuinely being a kind fella and hearing me out. At the end of our meeting (as I am walking out) he asked me to write a “Theology of a Hoodie.” K…. hmmm….ok. That’s it? What on earth does he mean, I thought? I also thought, are you kidding me dude, you know full well how many books and papers we must write in graduate school and now you are asking me to (for fun) write a theology of a hoodie?!
Well, here it is almost 8 years later. (BTW I still do not know exactly what he was asking for, however, I have a far better understanding of hoodies after creating and selling them for almost 3 years now). “Theology” means a theological theory or system” I am going with just the theory or system; my guess is that was what he was asking for?
So, here is my brief explanation of how the system works, at least in my case.
Don’t ya love it when someone visibly looks shocked (not fake-shocked for like a tip or something), but, really stunned when you casually mention that you are about to turn 50?! ME TOO!! Hey, I’ll take fake-shocked sometimes. As I ponder this new year, the running thread at the forefront in my mind is about turning 50 in October. Can I lose 20-30 lbs. in that time frame? Is that even possible? Does that mean completely giving up sweets and bread? Will my legs ever look like they did in my 30’s? What can I do to my face/neck/hands to get ahead of this aging thing?
Then I swing to other side and think, really, why does it even matter? Why does it matter if some stranger thinks you are younger than you are? Like you are cheating the system somehow, like you got better genes (jeans?) than someone else? I mean, does it truly matter?!