by Kelly Robinson August 07, 2018 11 Comments

Ten years ago, today on 8/8/08, I became Mrs. Robinson. Yes, cue the quips from the movie and you can thank me later for planting the song seed in your noggin just now. This is significant to my husband and I, this 10-year mark, because it has not been a bed of roses, there were many thorns along the way.

The thorn of infertility is perhaps the most hurtful one. As I write this, I wonder why does this still trigger me now? Maybe I suppress or ignore this thorn day-to-day and as I sit down to stop and reflect on our first decade together, this deep hurt comes to the surface. 

The thorn of quickly realizing that marriage is not the idyllic life I remembered seeing on TV shows growing up, such as “Leave it to Beaver” or “The Brady Bunch.”  Moving to a big city, living with a man for the first time and starting grad school all within the week after getting married was daunting to say the least. 

I once heard the saying, “Marriage is not meant to make us happy, but to make us holy.”  I mentioned that to a friend once and she said, “Well, that’s not very romantic.” No, it’s not. However, I think there is much truth to the statement. Think about it for a moment. If we are looking only to our spouse to make us happy, (by the way the word, happy in this sense, makes me cringe; the word JOY in my opinion is far better, but more on that in a follow up blog) then we will be sorely disappointed. Spouses are human after all, not Divine and cannot begin to fulfill all needs and wishes in our fallen state.  Only Jesus Christ can truly give us the pure, true, real Divine Love that we all long for.  Only He can heal those deep-seated thorns/hurts that we all carry around day-to-day, month after month and year after year. Only He can come alongside and give us the supernatural strength we need to continue to show love to our spouse, forgive each other from our hearts and continue to choose one another each day.  Only Love.





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This is so true about marriage- it is a huge blessing, but certainly not for the faint hearted!! Thank you for sharing so honestly. It was beautiful.

Diane Gunsolley
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sharing the joy of your 10th anniversary as well as the pain of infertility. Our God gives hope for the unexpected journeys of life. Only LOVE.

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